Food is My Love Language

I’m sure you’ve all heard of The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, right? We all feel love, and show love, but we don’t always communicate that love in the way the other person needs or expects. Well, I took the quiz years ago, and then made my husband do the same. We are definitely not on the same page when it comes to communicating love, but one thing we both agree on is food. I know it’s not an official love language, and one could definitely argue that it could easily fit into one of the legitimate categories:

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Acts of Service
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Quality Time
  • Physical Touch

But for me, food transcends all of that. It incorporates all of the languages, in their own unique way.

My relationship with food, is not always healthy. Too often, I use food as a way to comfort or fill a void. That relationship definitely needs to be more constructive, more deliberate, more controlled. But that is better left for another post, or… more likely, a private journal entry series.

However, when we take a step back, my larger relationship with food bears much better fruit. I love a well–planned menu. I love organizing said menu to perfectly–timed execution. And most of all, I love sharing that well–planned, perfectly–timed, and delightfully–presented meal with those I love. There is very little in this life that brings me such consistent, emotional highs. Not because it makes me feel good about myself (although it does that to a degree), but more importantly, because such efforts are a tangible way for me to express to those I love and care that they are worthy of my time and energy. They are deserving of my best efforts. They are the ones I want to share a truly enjoyable experience with.

One of my favorite way to spend time with friends is to “do lunch” or dinner. Eating delicious food is just a small part of the experience. It is really about spending quality time, away from the distractions of life, where we can connect in meaningful ways. Food is, or can be, an ice breaker for new relationships, a reason for silence in a challenging conversation, a cause for celebration for a special occasion, or even a bonding experience for seasoned friendships. It can also be just a reason to spend time together.

What’s your love language? And is it delicious?